by Mar De Carlo
Although, sharing the same bed each night can work and be beneficial for many couples, sleeping in separate beds can be just as beneficial and necessary for other couples.
A National Sleep Foundation survey found that as many as 25 percent of couples, 1 in 4 couples reported sleeping in separate beds.
To share a bed or not share a bed together depends on many factors.
If sleep is being interrupted each night, it is a good sign that a couple should consider sleeping in separate beds even for a short time until the root cause of the sleep disruption is uncovered and a solution is put into action.
Common reasons couples sleep apart can be due to snoring, insomnia, conflicting sleep or work schedules, temperature differences, use of devices and restlessness.
Sleep deprivation can lead to irritability, frustration and an unhealthy unhappy relationship. As a result, sleeping in separate beds allows for each person to improve upon their sleep which will improve their mood and relationship. It is also provides couples with an opportunity to evaluate their sleep hygiene and habits and improve upon them.
On the other hand, couples who share a bed together and are not experiencing any sleep disturbances, should continue to do so. Research shows that sleeping together in the same bed can synchronize couples’ wake-sleep patterns and can also improve their dream stage of rest (REM-rapid eye movement), increasing the amount of time spent in the REM sleep stage during the night.
Begin by embracing your sleep challenge and taking a deep open curious interest to learn more about how you function. Your body is essentially a home that needs maintenance to perform at its best. Your sleep challenge is significantly an opportunity to turn your quality of life around for the better for both yourself and your partner.
Mar De Carlo, author and founder of the International Parenting & Health Institute, Association of Professional Sleep Consultants, the Business Sanctuary, and Physical Awakening — a registered prenatal Yoga School with Yoga Alliance. She is a sleep expert working with both clients and also training professionals to certify and improve upon their sleep coaching skills. She pioneered the first Holistic Pregnancy & Child Sleep Consultant Certificatioin program in 2012 and the first Integrative Adult Sleep Coach Certification in 2015. She is also the author of “Awakening Through Sleep”. Mar has over 25 years of training and experience. She is known for her cutting edge approach to connecting and bridging systems in a variety of industries across the globe that have transformed thousands of lives in 59 countries and 10 languages. As an innovative holistic curriculum developer, Mar has developed and pioneered evidenced-based holistic curriculums since 2009. Books: Awakening Through Sleep, The Baby Planner Profession, and Green Body Green Birth.